We are all lost
When we feel insecure and lost, we are prone to convince ourselves that we are the only ones who feel this way, and that everyone around us knows exactly what they are doing.
At our core, we are all alike, striving for companionship, recognition and to be a better version of what we were yesterday. At times we are unconsciously guided by greed, lust and envy. It is something we all have in common. We tend to forget this at times.
When we feel insecure and lost, we are prone to convince ourselves that we are the only ones who feel this way, and that everyone around us knows exactly what they are doing. However, often the opposite is the case. We all feel lost and uneasy, particularly when we have just gone through a significant change. The beginning of university or starting a new job is a good example.
The reason we are inclined to feel isolated and insecure is because the new environment we are in is out of our comfort zone. As a result, our mind fills us with anxiety desperately trying to pull us back into our comfort zone. However, there is no going back, we have to embrace change in order to expand our comfort zone. In fact, it is only by stepping out of our comfort zone that we can achieve real growth.
Here's what I’ve learned
To speed up the process, you can remind yourself that even if your mind is playing tricks on you and convincing you that you are the only one who feels lost and everyone else is coping well with the change, you have to actively reassure yourself that this is not the case. I am confident that no one feels safe and at ease in times of change.
In addition, the most exhilarating part of stepping out of your comfort zone is that you can't predict what's going to happen. When I stepped out of my comfort zone, I finally understood how peaceful solitude is. Solitude was something that scared me at the beginning of University, but I came to cherish it and even seek it out frequently. There is nothing more powerful than feeling completely content with your own company.