Friendships

In our twenties, we often focus heavily on finding the right romantic partner, sometimes overlooking the incredible stability our friendships offer. It's strange because our friends are the ones who've been with us through our teenage years, the people we turn to in tough times, sharing things we might not tell anyone else.

My closest friend and I have been inseparable for about six years now. Our friendship didn’t start on a specific day; it just grew from knowing each other to becoming an integral part of each other’s lives. We met in middle school and became really close during high school. Even though we’ve been 600 kilometers apart during university, our bond only grew stronger. I've learned that all relationships, whether romantic or not, need effort to thrive.

My friend and I make it a daily habit to check in with each other, even if it's just a quick call or text. Showing interest and letting someone know you’re eager to talk can mean a lot. We take our friendship seriously by planning hangouts, even if it’s just to watch a movie. It’s our way of showing how much our friendship means to us.

If you feel any of your connections lack depth, treat them like new relationships. Show genuine interest in their lives, spend quality time together, and be caring and thoughtful, just as you'd want someone to be with you.

I’m incredibly grateful for my dearest friend. She’s been a constant support, someone I can always count on. Knowing she trusts me and shares her life with me is something I cherish deeply. (Thank you Sophie!)

Friendships, like any relationship, need attention and care. By valuing these connections, we not only honour our bonds but also enrich our lives with invaluable support.

Liability by Ella

I went to Budapest for this six-day festival – a little adventure that turned out to be a lot of fun. What made it even better was getting to see some of my favourite artists, with Lorde (or Ella, as her fans know her) being the highlight.

It's interesting how some artists' music can feel so personal, even if you've enjoyed it for years. They become a part of your life's soundtrack, but you might not think of them right away if someone asks about your favorites.

During the festival, Lorde shared a bit about what inspires her songwriting. She mentioned that it's often those little moments that spark her creativity – a fleeting look or a meaningful conversation. She introduced a song that was born from a particularly intense experience, one that left her walking around the city, eventually finding herself in a cab, shedding tears on the way home. That song's lyrics really struck me because I could relate to the emotions she was describing.

[Verse 1]
Baby really hurt me, crying in the taxi
He don't wanna know me
Says he made the big mistake of dancing in my storm
Says it was poison
So I guess I'll go home
Into the arms of the girl that I love
The only love I haven't screwed up
She's so hard to please, but she's a forest fire
I do my best to meet her demands, play at romance
We slow dance in the living room
But all that a stranger would see
Is one girl swaying alone, stroking a cheek

[Chorus]
They say, "You're a little much for me
You're a liability
You're a little much for me"
So they pull back, make other plans
I understand, I'm a liability
Get you wild, make you leave
I'm a little much for e-a-na-na-na, everyone

[Verse 2]
The truth is
I am a toy that people enjoy
Till all of the tricks don't work anymore
And then they are bored of me
I know that it's exciting, running through the night
But every perfect summer's eating me alive until you're gone
Better on my own

[Chorus]
They say, "You're a little much for me
You're a liability
You're a little much for me"
So they pull back, make other plans
I understand, I'm a liability
Get you wild, make you leave
I'm a little much for e-a-na-na-na, everyone

[Outro]
They're gonna watch me disappear into the sun
You're all gonna watch me disappear into the sun

After performing the song, Lorde shared something she had come to realize over the course of seven years. She learned that she wasn't the problem, that being true to herself was the key to real happiness. It's a sentiment that really hit home – finding contentment is about embracing who we are and becoming the best version of ourselves. Only then can we attract the right people and find genuine happiness.

And so, her message was clear – focus on being authentic and striving to become your best self.

The Journey of Self-Discovery: Unraveling Your True Identity

Finding your own identity while growing up can be a daunting and deeply personal journey. It involves questioning the beliefs and values that have shaped you and discovering who you aspire to become. Having personally experienced this transformative process, I understand the challenges of breaking away from ingrained habits and beliefs. Often, it feels like we might be betraying our past or the people who taught us those beliefs, especially when our identity is intricately linked to our family or cultural background. Nevertheless, it's crucial to remember that finding your identity is not about rejecting your past or culture but about exploring and reconciling your true self with your heritage.

Navigating the Path:
As I embarked on this expedition of self-discovery, I encountered resistance and moments of self-doubt. Distinguishing between my genuine desires and those imposed on me by external influences proved challenging. The conflict between what I truly wanted and what I had been taught to want created inner turmoil. Leaving behind my old self without feeling like I was abandoning that version of me was equally trying.

A Natural Part of Growth:
Remember, questioning your beliefs and seeking your identity is a natural part of growing up. Everyone undergoes this process in their unique way and at their own pace. It's possible that beliefs you once held dear may no longer serve your best interests or align with your aspirations for the future.

Being Patient and Kind to Yourself:
Throughout this journey, it's essential to be patient and compassionate with yourself. Allow yourself the time and space to explore your beliefs and desires without judgment or pressure. It's okay to question your beliefs and to allow them to evolve. Your self-discovery process is a personal and sacred journey.

Seeking Support:
Surround yourself with people who accept and embrace your true self. Seek out supportive individuals who can offer guidance and encouragement on your path of self-discovery. Additionally, consider keeping a journal to document your thoughts and feelings during this transformative phase. Celebrate even the smallest successes along the way and take pride in the progress you make.

Embracing the Unknown:
Ultimately, finding your identity is about understanding your true self, your core beliefs, and your aspirations. Embrace the uncertainties and allow yourself to venture into the unknown. Trust in yourself and the journey, knowing that you possess the strength and resilience to discover your authentic identity.

Discovering your true identity is an empowering and deeply personal quest. Embrace the challenges and uncertainties with courage and an open heart. Remember, embracing your true self doesn't mean turning your back on anyone; it's about being unapologetically you. Those who genuinely love you will continue to love and support you on this journey. Their love is unwavering, even as you uncover your authentic self and find happiness. So, release the worry of meeting others' expectations and start embracing the person you know you truly are.