Embracing Personal Independence

In our journey through life, it is crucial to strike a balance between sharing our lives with loved ones and maintaining our personal independence. Over the past year, I have undergone a significant transformation in becoming financially self-reliant. Moving to a different city forced me to unlearn dependency on others.

Growing up, I was accustomed to my parents, especially my mother, taking care of important matters. Even after leaving home, I often sought her guidance on crucial decisions. I mistakenly believed that the extent of my loved ones care determined their love for me. However, I came to the realization that it is not their duty to take care of me - I am an adult and responsible for my own well-being.

This realization, though easier said than done, required me to let go of certain expectations. I had to acknowledge that we all face our own struggles and burdens. It is unfair to burden others with our dependency without considering their own challenges. If we find ourselves dependent on someone, it is essential to ask whether we would willingly provide the same level of care to someone else and if it would feel burdensome.

Here is what I have learned

Having had parents or guardians who cared for us was a blessing, but that phase of life has passed. We must take charge of our own lives to the best of our abilities. Everything we seek in others can be provided by ourselves. We need to be kinder, more considerate, patient, positive, and fun toward ourselves. We are the constant in our lives, and it is our responsibility to ensure we are cared for in every possible way. Express gratitude for our accomplishments thus far. The more independence we gain, the less our emotions and well-being will rely on others. We possess all the necessary ingredients for happiness, love, and appreciation within ourselves.

Embracing personal independence is a journey of self-care, allowing us to nurture and fulfill our own needs. By cultivating a sense of self-reliance, we empower ourselves to live a more fulfilling and gratifying life.